Mirrors allow us the opportunity to see ourselves. Windows allow us to see others. The concept of Mirrors and Windows has been playing in my heart all week.
Let’s deal with mirrors first.
The question is how do you see yourself? What mirror are you looking through to see yourself? I looked at myself through the mirror of divorce, the mirror of insecurities, the mirror of shame, the mirror of guilt, the mirror of my past, the mirror of comparison and even the mirror of disappointment. Each mirror I picked up caused me to see flaws and things that really weren’t there. I read something a long time ago and it said something to the effect of, if a fish judged itself by the way it climbed a tree versus how well it swam then it would always feel insufficient and never be able to compete or keep up.
How many times do we do the same thing. We judge ourselves in places that weren’t even meant for us and out of scope with our calling and ability. One thing I learned about me is I can’t draw. So how dare I try to compare myself to those that can and then say I’m not good enough. No that’s just not my gift. But when it comes to writing, I thrive in that. When you pick up the wrong mirror you try to overcompensate for things you don’t have to. You see extra grays. Extra pimples. Little insufficiencies and then try to make up for it.
When you look at yourself through the mirror of Christ you see your flaws, but you also see how beautiful, and fearfully and wonderfully made you are. You are able to change the flaws and enhance the beauty in you.
Let’s talk about windows.
Windows shape our perceptions of others. I read something not too long ago where a woman got up daily looked out the window and would see her neighbor putting her clothes on the clothes line. She kept saying how dirty the lady’s clothes were. After about a month went past, she was amazed at how the lady had finally washed her clothes the right way. She brought it up to her husband and he said he finally cleaned the windows. I thought this was hilarious, but I realized how often I look at someone or something and make a judgment that they are the problem and not realizing that the windows in which I am looking at them is the real problem.
Maybe they are not the problem at all, maybe it is you. It is a hard reality to look at yourself and say I need help and there are some things I need to change about me. I can talk about it because I had to do it. I was no longer going to allow the ugly places in me not to be dealt with because I was masking them by looking at all the issues in everybody else. I’m an adamant believer that before God speaks to you about anybody else, He will speak to you about you first. We just choose not to listen sometimes to what He is saying about us.
Many of us can’t help how we see others because we have had dirt thrown on what was a once pure perception. Sometimes it wasn’t even by your own power. We have allowed others to cut us and cause infections in us that warps how we see things now. Now it is time to take back control and clean your windows by first being cleansed on the inside of yourself!
It is time to be healed. Be ye healed in your perceptions of others and of yourself! Healing comes first through honesty and transparency.