This week I went to the movies to see Acrimony. I was really excited about it and had heard many reviews on it. I won’t say too much about the movie for those of you who have not seen it, but I will say it was not what I expected. In spite of all of that, I did learn quite a few things.
Having gone through a divorce, I understand the hurt and the pain of what that is like, but through the movie, I got a better understanding of how important forgiveness truly is. We always hear that phrase “forgiveness is really for you.” Yea okay, but ummm that doesn’t change what happened! A lot of us carry that hurt and that pain and are unwilling to let it go and give it up.
A few weeks ago I was speaking to a woman of God and she told me that it is time to let it go. Those 3 small words: LET IT GO broke me down. I kept hearing the same thing that God was waiting on me to give my all to him. What else do you want God? I realized he wanted me to give up that un-forgiveness. What I could not see was that it was causing those seeds of bitterness, depression, anger, guilt, and shame to grow. What I didn’t realize was that it was literally hindering my healing.
I realized that it was not that it was hard for me to forgive, the problem was that it was hard for me to give up my will to forgive. Not forgiving gave me my justification to react in a nasty way or be evil. We hear that all the time that it is not easy to forgive. I realized that the only thing that made it hard for me to forgive was the fact that I simply did NOT want to. It was not until I decided that I wanted to forgive that I actually did.
Once I let it go, I felt so light and free. It was almost like the movie “Thor” when the sky went black due to the invasion and once the enemy’s ship was destroyed, it was light again; that was how it felt on the inside of me.
I know I am not the only one that has been through some hard things. I know you have your days where you feel like setting it off. I know some of you are waiting on apologies that you may never get. But, I want to let you know that it is time to Let It Go! Holding on to the bitterness, the anger, and the pain will not hurt the other party, it will only hurt you and bring you into a dark place you may never be able to get out of.
Some of us say well I will forgive, but I will never forget. Can you truly ever forget? No, but you do forget the pain and you do forget how what happened made you feel. It is not a matter of not forgetting, it is a matter of being healed from what happened and using that to help someone else heal. When you can speak about your past from a healed place it will set so many people free. It is time to be free today!
Let It Go!